Why be the same when you can be different.

If you are the person I am about to describe then I do apologise, you might know a person like this, you might have been this person or you might have the same views as me. Whatever you do do not take this to offence as these are my views and we all have our our thoughts and opinions.

Are you sick of how similar we all are? How we all try to be the same and find anyone that stands out weird? How under pressure you feel to fit in? you may be 12 or you may be 30, you will still have the same pressure you did back then?

Emos, chavs, goths, hippies, bikers and barbie dolls, there are always people that fit one of those stereotypes, people afraid to be on there own and not fit into a group or category.

You may be that barbie doll, that puts layer upon layer of make-up, hiding her real beauty to either impress some guy or friend, or hide your insecurities.

You may be that goth or emo, dressed in black, faking having suicidal thoughts and depression, taking drugs and liking heavy metal, just because your peers fit a stereotype (that stereotype) dosen’t mean you need to.

You may be that hippie or hippie wannabe, you may believe by being a hippie you are being yourself and different from the rest of society, you may be spiritual in reiki and chakras, close to nature, on drugs and covered in tie dye and patchwork, but being a hippie just in case you didn’t know is a stereotype itself.

You may be that chav that wears your Nike and Addidas tracksuit, that listens to rap music and puts on a massive show to make your personality as chavvy as your look.

You may be that biker that rides a motorbike, that’s beefy with tatts all over your arms, growing a beard like Father Christmas, gaining your confidence through being a part of something.

You may create or make up a certain thing in order to fit in, but don’t make up anything why should you have to change or make yourself appear different in order to feel excepted or in order for people to like you when people probably already do.

Or you may be me, you may have developed your own style you may have had a huge interest in creating a change within yourself and decided that you want to take every step into making sure you can become the person that you really are, you may like every music genre from classical to pop to jazz and indie, you may put on your make-up every morning but for yourself only, you may walk down the street with some extreme outfit which you put on without even thinking about it, you may be your own unique category, your own person.

The more you make these changes to be different, the more happier and at ease you will feel, so please take my advice and make change in order to create the peace in yourself to achieve the perfect level of happiness that you need.

Good luck on this little challenge

Love Melissa x

Tonight ended like this – journal entry

Sister Emma
Where can I begin.

Her temper goes so quickly.
Her emotions flood.
She scares me or is it just sadness I feel.

Sharing tips I already know of and have tried.
Which i have found to be useless.

I created this successfully fail proof plan Of which I only received negativity from. From Emma.

People wonder why all my thoughts, views and emotions are sheltered.

HERE IS WHY

Time to forget this negativity and move on.

Love to myself 🌻

I deserve nice kind people
I deserve love and positivity

Journal entry – Montauk lover

This American montauk surfer is still in my head daily. 

I said I loved him in a goodbye note and now I hear nothing from him. 

I guess I’m kinda crazy but I enjoyed the two weeks we spent together traveling up the east coast of Australia, road tripping from Byron bay were we both met to Brisbane were I had to see him go to paradises Sumbawa and Bali. The exact word was ‘infatuated’ but it still means love right..

By day we’d go on adventures in his rented car, stopping at whatever cliffs we’d find overlooking the sea. Spotting dolphins using his binoculars which he kept in his car. Following rainbows and on road trips. 
By night we’d travel to the lighthouse or look for an empty beach to stargaze at. Which is where he taught me the big-little dipper way to finding the North Star none of which I understood despite his effort into explaining it to me. 

We’d share donuts and IPA beers (yuk right) Toast and banana. 

I gave him an ultimatum to stay here traveling with me but I guess it was kinda a stupid question to ask after a short time of knowing each other. 

He never seemed to care as he was leaving, which makes me question everything that happened during my time with him and leaves me feeling worse. 

Bye forever.

Social media is a trigger of stress

Ok so here I begin. This is just my story,  though others may probably be able to relate to it. Social media is stressful! 
There are many social medias out there Facebook, Tumblr, Instagram, Flickr, We Heart it, Pinterest, Twitter, WhatsApp, Snapchat and many more. 
But the problem is do you let it take over your life? Do you become attatched or somehow obsessed? Do you set limits to the amount of time you spend in the technological world? Or do you let it run you and your life? 
There is a healthy limit I believe. And I believe I have crossed that limit. I let it overtake me and my life, sitting at home as a loner in my bedroom scrolling, liking, following in between eating and using essential facilities. I let it control me. I scroll , instead of with envy. I scroll with the motivation to want to change myself for the better. To want to be someone, something else that is better, this I believed to be healthy a long while ago but recently I realised it was time to unplug. 
Stop reading this post and take a look around wherever your surroundings may be. Taking time out makes me smile. 

Unplug often.

Or unplug completely.

Don’t let it control you. Set yourself a goal of 1 to 2 hours of social media a day or let go of it completely and discover all you have lost and all that has gone or all that may have been missing.

Love always…

Let go… a freewrite poem by Melissa Jade Goodwin 

My dear child of Gaia 

You don’t have to refrain from anything

You can be you, 

And mother will comfort you

The warmth, the draft, the closeness

How you are connected to her,

She is always there, though your awareness of this is unclear to you 

Let yourself be one with her and all will be well.

Let go, let in, let out, let love and let yourself flourish to who your supposed to be. 

I promise you, mother will guide you. 

My top 10 instagram inspirations

I must say I’m wasn’t a fan of social media.. I deleted Facebook, my only social media account around 3 or 4 years ago,with the goal of being rid of social media completely… trying to remain unplugged i discovered instagram.. I was abit behind everyone else. Most others had, had it for years before I had so it was kinda a new thing for me. That was it my goal was destroyed and now, I am here to list you my top 10.

1. @azureryder

2. @mewsha


3. @mimielashiry


4. @lucy.hope.j


5. @sophiedalah


6. @chelsey_sinclair


7. @balticmoon


8. @shaberr

9. @ourplanetdaily

10. @melissajadegoodwin – of course me..

I still do not recommend social media 

Use it for inspiration and no other purpose otherwise you get to focused on others and digital life and start to forget the importance of real life connection.

Love all …x